Something’s lost and something’s gained in living every day. Joni Mitchell
In 2012 I wrote my first blog: “I Really Don’t Know Life At All: Confessions From An Older And Wiser Counseling Psychologist”, quoting the lyrics of Joni Mitchell’s, Both Sides Now. In 298 blogs since then I have been writing about how little we all know. And why and how we need to be positive about uncertainty. By now you know that beliefs are my major theme. And I believe what I believe influences how I age. This blog is about my beliefs about my aging process.
If something is lost and gained in living every day, I believe I need to acknowledge what is lost and determine and concentrate on what is gained. I expect to be positive and uncertain. How I live each day is my choice, but it isn’t certain. I will be able to do less and less in my future, but still able to gain by growing and learning each day.
I have never been at this stage of my aging journey, and don’t know many who have. I believe my physical activity over the past many years has been beneficial, and will continue as long as I can. I believe my blogging has been beneficial to my mind. This I will also continue. Looking for the positive in my living every day, being physically, socially and mentally active, and continue being me, will be my aging strategy.
I am now 93 years old. This means I have a past that is longer than my future. I have always said: “Your image of the future may be the most important factor in determining what it will be”. My image will be positive and uncertain, and wondering about my legacy. Did I leave a future imprint with my life?
Although I may keep writing about my aging, I want to say now that I have already decided what I would like it said about me when I am no longer here. This I learned from Barack Obama’s eulogy of Reverend Pinckney in 2015. “What a good man,” Obama said of Pinckney. “Sometimes I think that’s the best thing to hope for when you’re eulogized. After all the words and recitations and resumes are read, just to say somebody was a good man.” That is what I would like it said of me; my legacy: “He was a good man.”
We have the power to choose the beliefs that shape our lives. Ron Pevny, Center for Conscious Eldering